You may think it's strange to create an article with the headline, "How to Be Unlikeable"".
After all, most of us want to learn how to become more likeable. We can't imagine that any person would actually want to be unlikeable on purpose. The truth is that there are some people who really are unlikeable. You have probably met a few people who are unlikeable. Maybe you worry that you are unlikeable yourself. Maybe you worry that other people don't like you.
There are many ways in which people can be unlikeable. Sometimes the reason that people are unlikeable is because they are doing something wrong in the way they interact with others. These people may be too self centered to realize what they are doing wrong. They don't realize that they have some unlikeable behaviors, so they keep on being unpleasant to others.
Chances are that if these people realized they have some unlikeable behaviors, they might change. After all, by changing some unpleasant behaviors to pleasant ones, these people would become more likeable. Once they became more likeable, they would probably end up having a lot more friends. Most of us want to have more friends. We especially want to have people in our lives who care about us, and who value our friendship in return. When people have unlikeable behaviors, they end up having very few friends. They end up being lonely.
What are some of these unlikeable behaviors that some people have? Here are just a few behaviors that can make a person unlikeable:
o Being gossipy
o Being conceited
o Being self centered
o Never showing interest in other people
o Always complaining
o Being very negative
o Being unreliable
o Being filled with hate towards others
o Being very resentful
o Never talking to other people
Are you guilty of any of these unlikeable behaviors? All of us are probably guilty of some of these bad behaviors once in a while, because let's face it, none of us is perfect. Still, as long as your negative behavior makes up only a small part of your personality, you may have enough good qualities to overcome it. Your good qualities will help to make you likeable to those you meet.
Over the years, I have come across a few people who actually took pride in the fact that nobody liked them. For some reason, the fact that nobody liked them made these people feel "special". These people actually seemed to believe that the reason nobody liked them was because they were superior. They had talked themselves into believing that they were alone and disliked because they were better than anybody else. Sadly, the more these people thought they were superior to everyone else, the more they were disliked by everyone who met them.
Is your personal goal to be unlikeable and have no friends? Or would you prefer to be a likeable person and have a lot of friends?
Whatever your goal is, you will find enough information in this article to show you how to achieve your goals. If you want to be unlikeable, just start to adopt some of those bad habits of being self centered that I have listed above. In no time, you will find that people will start to avoid you. If you want to be more likeable, then simply start to do the opposite. Start being pleasant and friendly, and reach out to others. Soon you will develop a reputation as a likeable person.